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No matter who you are, No matter what you did, No matter where you've come from, "You can always change, Become a better version of yourself" It's me!
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Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika masa yang semestinya kamu sudah menjadi seorang mahasiswa, tapi nyatanya kini masih harus berjuang lagi untuk menjadi mahasiswa. Mainkan saja peranmu dengan sebaik-baiknya, bahwa Allah menakdirkan kebaikan untukmu, dari jalan perjuangan ini, lagi dan lagi.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika skripsi atau tesismu terbengkalai tersebab kamu mengurus amanah Allah yang akan menjadi bintang. Mainkan saja peranmu dan Allah akan tunjukkan jalan keluar yang spesial untukmu.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika ijazah S1 sudah di tangan, teman-temanmu yang lain sudah berpenghasilan, sedangkan kamu, dari pagi hingga malam sibuk membentuk karakter bagi makhluk yang akan menjadi jalan surga bagi masa depan. Mainkan saja peranmu, dan tak ada yang tak berguna dari pendidikan yang kau raih, dan bahwa rezeki Allah bukan hanya tentang penghasilan kan? Memiliki anak-anak penuh cinta pun adalah rezeki-Nya.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika pasangan lain mengasuh bersama dalam cinta untuk buah hati, sedang kau terpisah jarak karena suatu sebab. Mainkan saja peranmu, suatu hari percayalah bahwa Allah akan membersamai kalian kembali.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika nyatanya kondisi memaksamu untuk bekerja, meninggalkan buah hati yang tiap pagi melepas pergimu dengan tangis. Mainkan saja peranmu, ya mainkan saja, sambil memikirkan cara agar waktu bersamanya tetap berkualitas.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika katamu lelah ini seakan tiada habisnya, menjadi punggung padahal rusuk. Mainkan saja peranmu, bukankah semata-mata mencari ridha Allah? Lelah yang Lillah, berujung maghfirah.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika belahan jiwa nyatanya bukan seperti imajinasimu dulu, mainkan saja peranmu, bukankah Allah yang lebih tahu mana yang terbaik untukmu? tetap berjalan bersama ridha-Nya dan ridhanya, untuk bahagia buah cinta.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika timbul iri pada mereka yang dalam hitungan dekat setelah pernikahannya, langsung Allah beri anugerah kehamilan, sedangkan kau kini masih menanti titipan tersebut. Mainkan saja peranmu dengan sebaik-sebaiknya sambil tetap merayu Allah dalam sepertiga malam menengadah mesra bersamanya.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika hari-hari masih sama dalam angka menanti, menanti suatu bahagia yang katamu bukan hanya untuk satu hari dan satu hati. Mainkan saja peranmu sambil perbaiki diri semata-mata murni karena ketaatan pada-Nya hingga laksana Zulaikha yang sabar menanti Yusuf tambatan hati, atau bagai Adam yang menanti Hawa di sisi.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ketika ribuan pasangan pengantin mengharapkan amanah Ilahi, membesarkan anak kebanggaan hati, dan kau kini, membesarkan, mengasuh dan mendidik anak yang meski bukan dari rahimmu. Mainkan saja peranmu, sebagai ibu untuk anak dari rahim saudarimu.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ya, taat. Bagai Nabiyullah Ibrahim, melaksanakan peran dari Allah untuk membawa istri dan anaknya ke padang yang kering. Kemudian, rencana Allah luar biasa, menjadikannya kisah penuh hikmah dalam catatan takdir manusia.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ya, taat. Bagai Nabiyullah Ayub yang nestapa adalah bagian dari hidupnya, dan kau dapati ia tetap mempesona, menjadikannya kisah sabar yang tanpa batas berujung surga.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Ya, taat. Bagai nabiyullah lainnya. Berkacalah pada mereka, dan jejaki kisah ketaatannya, maka taat adalah cinta.
Mainkan saja peranmu, tugasmu hanya taat kan?
Taat yang dalam suka maupun tidak suka. Taat yang bukan tanpa keluh, namun mengupayakan agar keluh menguap bersama doa-doa yang mengangkasa menjadikan kekuatan untuk tetap taat.
Mainkan saja peranmu, dalam taat kepada-Nya, dan karena-Nya.
How to Gain Control of Your Emotions @WikiHow 
Controlling your emotions doesn't mean ignoring them. It means you
recognize them and act on them when appropriate, not randomly and
uncontrollably whenever you feel like it. Take control of your life by
taking control of your emotions.
Part 1 of 3: Controlling Emotions, Not Letting Emotions Control You  1. Know your emotions.
There are a million different ways you can feel, but scientists have
classified human emotions into a few basics that everyone can recognize:
joy, acceptance, fear, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, and
anticipation
-Jealousy,
for example, is a manifestation of fear - fear that you're not "as
good" as something else, fear of being abandoned because you're not
"perfect" or "the best."
-Know what kinds of situations cause which emotions, and be able to
tell the difference between anger and fear; sometimes multiple emotions
can bubble up at the same time, and the person going through the
emotions might not be able to distinguish the two.
2. Recognize that emotions don't just appear mysteriously out of nowhere.
Many times, we're at the mercy of our emotions on a subconscious level. By recognizing your emotions on a conscious level, you're better able to control them.
- It's also good to recognize an emotion from the moment it
materializes, as opposed to letting it build up and intensify. The last
thing you want to do is ignore or repress your feelings, because if
you're reading this, you probably know that when you do that, they tend
to get worse and erupt later.
-Ask yourself throughout the day: "How am I feeling right now?" If you can, keep a journal.
Write down situations that caused an interesting emotion in you. That
way, you can help pinpoint the moment it appeared instead of letting its
origin slip away.
-Take ownership of your emotions. Don't blame them on other people.
Recognize when you try to blame other people for your emotions, and
don't let your mind get away with that trick. Taking full responsibility
for your emotions will help you better control them.
Notice what was going through your mind when the emotion appeared. Stop and analyze what you were thinking about, until you find what thought was causing that emotion. Your boss may not have made eye contact with you at lunch, for example; and without even being aware of it, the thought may have been in the back of your mind, "He's getting ready to fire me!"  Write down the evidence which supports or contradicts the thought that produced the emotion. Start connecting the dots about why you reacted the way you did.
-When you begin to think about it, you might realize that since nobody gets along well with this particular boss, he can't afford to actually fire anyone, because the department is too short-staffed.
-For example, you may have let slip something that you should not
have said which angered him, but which it is too late to retract. His
reaction at lunch may not be what you originally thought it was.
Ask yourself, "What is
another way to look at the situation that is more rational and more
balanced than the way I was looking at it before?" Explore all the
different possibilities. If nothing else, thinking about other possible
interpretations will alert you to many different scenarios, and the
difficulty of jumping to conclusions.
-Taking this new evidence into account, you may conclude that your
job is safe, regardless of your boss's petty annoyances, and you're
relieved of the emotion that was troubling you. If this doesn't work,
however, continue to the next step.
 Consider your options.
Now that you know what emotion you're dealing with, think of at least
two different ways you can respond. Your emotions control you when you
assume there's only one way to react, but you always have a choice. For example, if someone insults you, and you experience anger,
your immediate response might be to insult them back. But no matter
what the emotion, there are always at least two alternatives, and you
can probably think of more.
-Don't react. Do nothing.
This approach is especially good when you know that someone is trying
to egg you on or purposely frustrate you. Don't give in; when you fail
to show an emotional reaction, the person egging you on will become
frustrated and eventually stop.
-Relax. Easy to say, hard to do, but there are some ways to relax
that do not require lots of training, experience or will power. When we
are angry or upset we clench our jaws and tense up. Taking a deep breath
is an easy and effective way to tamp down the emotional upset. It won’t
dispel the anger but it can dial it down a notch or two, just enough to
keep us from saying, or doing, something we’d regret later.
-Do the opposite of what you would normally do. For example, you get
bothered when your spouse regularly doesn't do the dishes. Instead of
engaging them in an argument the second you notice the dirty dishes,
calmly do the dishes yourself and tell your spouse — in a calm and
collected way — that you'd appreciate help considering all you do in the
household.
-Remove yourself from the situation. Let’s say that you are on a
committee at work that includes people who are unfocused, angry and
unproductive. You invariably get upset when attending the meetings. One
strategy for dealing with this upset, frustration and anger is to ask to
be re-assigned to a different committee. Basically, you remove yourself
from a situation that you know will generate these strong, negative and
unnecessary feelings.
Make a choice. When
deciding what to do, it's important to make sure it's a conscious
choice, not a reaction to another, competing emotion. For example, if
someone insults you and you do nothing, is it your decision, or is it a
response to your fear of confrontation? Here are some good reasons to
act upon:
-Principles - Who do you want to be? What are your moral principles?
What do you want the outcome of this situation to be? Ultimately, which
is the decision you'd be most proud of? This is where religious guidance
comes into play for many people.
-Logic - Which course of action is the most likely to result in the
outcome you desire? For example, if you're being confronted with a
street fight, and you want to take the pacifist
route, you can walk away--but, there's a good chance that burly drunk
will be insulted if you turn your back. Maybe it's better to apologize and keep him talking until he calms down.
Part 2 of 3: Recognizing Ideas that Cause Negative Emotions  Change your perspective.
The above steps show how to not let your emotions control your behavior
on the spot. If you want to experience fewer negative emotions to begin
with, change the way you see the world. If you learn how to be optimistic and laid back, you'll find that negative emotions make fewer appearances to be reckoned with.
-Being optimistic is important. Instead of letting emotions take over
because you pessimistically expect them to, try believing in the notion
that the world is essentially good, and that people get what they
deserve, and that you are a good person. You may start finding that
outlook changes your emotions.
-Acknowledge that there are certain things that you won't be able to
change. Those things aren't worth getting frustrated at. You're probably
not going to change the way that some people drive their car, for
instance. It's not worth getting upset over. What you can change is your
reaction to people who drive recklessly and selfishly.
Eliminate many of the selfish core beliefs which give rise to your disturbing thoughts and negative emotions.
There are many irrational ideas that repeatedly upset us. They are all false,
but many of us are inclined to believe at least some of them part of
the time. Here are some preconceived notions about the self that are
wrong because people think of themselves too highly.
-"I must be perfect in all respects in order to be worthwhile." Nobody can be perfect in everything
that we have to do in life. But if you believe that you're a failure
unless you are perfect in every way, you are setting yourself up for a
lifetime of unhappiness.
-"I must be loved and approved of by everyone who is important to
me." Sometimes you just can't help making enemies, and there are people
in the world who bear ill will to almost everyone. But you can't make
your own life miserable by trying to please them.
-"When people treat me unfairly, it is because they are bad people."
Most of the people who treat you unfairly have friends and family who
love them. People are mixtures of good and bad. Maybe there is something
about you that displeases them.
-"It is terrible when I am seriously frustrated, treated badly, or
rejected." Some people have such a short fuse that they are constantly
losing jobs or endangering friendships because they are unable to endure
the slightest frustration. The world does not tick for only you. Be
considerate of other people.
-"If something is dangerous or fearful, I have to worry about it."
Many people believe that "the work of worrying" will help to make
problems go away. They drive themselves crazy by making up things to
worry about. "Okay, that's over. Now, what's the next thing on the list
that I have to worry about?.
-"It is terrible when things do not work out exactly as I want them
to." Could you have predicted the course of your own life? Probably not.
By the same token, you can't predict that things are going to work out
exactly as you want them to, even in the short term.
Eliminate many negative core beliefs about the self.
There are people who think of themselves not highly enough: Their
self-esteem is essentially in the gutter, and their emotions are the
result of not being able to love themselves adequately.
-"Misery comes from outside forces which I can’t do very much to change." Many prison inmates
describe their life as if it were a cork, bobbing up and down on waves
of circumstance. You can choose whether to see yourself as an effect of
your circumstances, or a cause. Take responsibility for your actions.
-"It is easier to avoid life’s difficulties and responsibilities than
to face them." Even painful experiences, once we can get through them,
can serve as a basis for learning and future growth. It's childish to go
through life thinking that difficulties won't ever affect us.
-"Because things in my past controlled my life, they have to keep
doing so now and in the future." If this were really true, it would mean
that we are prisoners of our past, and change is impossible. But people
change all the time — and sometimes they change dramatically! You have
the ability to be essentially who you want to be; you just have to
believe in yourself.
-"I can be as happy as possible by just doing nothing and enjoying
myself, taking life as it comes." If this were true, almost every
wealthy or comfortably retired person would do as little as possible.
But instead, they seek new challenges as a pathway to further growth.
You're tricking yourself into believing that you'd be really happy doing
nothing. People need novelty to stay satisfied.
Part 3 of 3: Recognizing Ideas that Make Negative Emotions Worse
Learn to control the beast @WikiHow The power of controlling your own emotions..Why you should learn to control the beastEmotional reaction is a choice. Just as fear, doubts and other emotions are a choice, and they can all be controlled.
Whether you're angry, sad, depressed, jealous or any other negative
emotion, there are very easy ways to quickly change that and naturally
start to feel happy.
It becomes easier when you understand how your brain works and what actually makes you feel certain emotions.
The brain is like a computer, there are lots of shortcuts it uses
to make general living easier, and these shortcuts can be used to
achieve happiness at any time. (more on this later). Read on for tips on
how to control your emotions.
When you gain control of these emotions and not let them control you, you can react to any situation calmly and react efficiently,
not wasting time getting angry and upset. It's rare that someone looks
back on their life and says, 'I wish I spent more time being angry and
upset' It just doesn't happen.
Life's too short for that. Obviously
there are some situations which can't help but invoke an emotion you
might not want, for example the death of a loved one, feeling sad is
natural in this situation and to suppress it might actually do more harm
than good. It's good to let your emotions out sometimes.
However, say for example, you miss the bus. you're going to be late for
work and your boss might shout at you, or something like that. Now
naturally you'd get very annoyed and start blaming things like the
traffic, or yourself for not getting up early enough, or the bus driver
for arriving a few minutes before he usually does.
But at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter what you think at that stage, once you've missed that bus, you've missed it, you can't go back in time and change it so the only thing left that you're in control of is how you react. Go ahead and read that again if you need to.
Now, knowing that, you're probably thinking, well I have no choice how I feel when I miss that bus, it just happens. Right, let's take a look at this.
So you miss the bus, and just as it starts to drive away, you start
thinking about all the things that will now happen as a result,
* you'll be late for work,
* your boss will shout at you,
* you won't get all the work you need to get done in on time.
And I'm sure there are more. But, If you just say to yourself the second
you realize you've missed the bus, this has happened, there's nothing I
can do about it, the only thing I can do, is decide how I'm going to
respond to this.
Okay I've missed the bus, it doesn't really matter that much, I'll
just go into work with a positive attitude, smiling, and say to my boss
that the bus came early and I missed it.
Because you see, at this point in time two things are certain,
* You've missed the bus.
*You will arrive to work late.
There is nothing at this point you can do other than turn up a bit late,
so just do that. Don't stress, don't worry about it because that option
has gone now. The bus has left, and you're not on it. So why stress
about it?
You're going to have to go to work late regardless of how you feel right
now, so surely it's better to turn up feeling happy and calm than
stressed and angry.
That was just a small example, the same can be said about weather, it starts pouring down with rain and you have to walk across town to get to the station.
You're going to get wet at this stage, there's nothing you can do to change that, but don't let it get to you and don't let it change your emotions
and mood, because it will snowball on you, and when you get home you'll
be in a bad mood all because you got worked up about walking through a
bit of rain.
That could affect any number of other things at home, relationships, you could miss opportunities because you're in a bad mood
and decide for example, not to talk to the person on the street who
seems excited about something and wants to share it with you. you could
not pick up the phone to a potential dream job offer, all because you're
a bit pissed off about the weather.
Right now I'm going to share a few tips and tricks that instantly make you feel happier.
These are perfect for other times, say you wake up feeling really lazy
and you don't want to talk to anyone or go anywhere. Try a few of these.
Another very good tip is one from Mentalist 'Derren Brown' and it's this. If your feeling a lot of emotion about something, embrace that emotion for a moment, let it flood into you, and try and visualize it in your mind, make the image really vivid, with lots of bright colors, and as scary or negative as it can be made.
Really visualize it, and feel the emotions that come over you as
you do. Now in your mind, look at the image of whatever it may be, an
anticipated bad situation, a fear, a bad memory, whatever it is that's
creating bad emotions within you, and slowly make the visualization get smaller.
Let the physical size of the image shrink in your mind. as it does this, take the color out of it. see it in black and white. Keep bringing the size down, smaller and smaller until it's eventually the size of a postage stamp.
As you've done this, you should have felt the emotion shrink with the image and suddenly, you don't have the emotion over it anymore. Every time you feel the emotion come back, do the same thing, visualize it in your mind and make it smaller and colourless.
To sum up, negative emotions never help anything and always lead to bad
things. Don't waste your time with them, and remember you always have a
choice about how you feel. Sometimes, it seems difficult because we're
so used to being guided and controlled by our emotions that we just feel
like we aren't in control, but we are.
If you really think about it, and i mean take some time to really think
about that last time you felt angry or upset with someone, right from
the start you had the choice how to feel.
Here are some things that will be of interest.
.: Not With Me :. @Chimmi Kapanpun, hidup memang tak pernah mudah untuk di jalani. Barangkali saat ini amarah sedang menguasaimu, ledakkanlah! Barangkali kau tengah di liputi kesedihan yang melilit, menangislah! Tapi setelah itu, ikutilah aku: Pejamkan matamu lalu sebutkan sepuluh nama yang paling kau cintai dalam hidupmu! Ketika kau menyebut nama pertama, lihatlah dia tersenyum di kepalamu. ketika kau menyebut nama kedua, peluknya menghangatkan hatimu. Lalu nama ketiga, keempat, ketujuh dan seterusnya. Percayalah padaku, ketika kau sampai pada nama kesepuluh, kau akan tahu betapa beruntungnya dirimu. I'm waking up from my summer dreams again try to thinking if you're alright then I'm shattered by the shadows of your eyes knowing you're still here by my side Lalu bukalah matamu, pelan - pelan seperti denting piano dalam lagu Not With Me. Sepuluh nama itu, merekalah yang mewarnai hidupmu, setia bagai cinta yang bergetar dalam hatimu. Sepuluh hanyalah tanda. Jika kau punya lebih banyak nama, berpestalah dengan mereka! Rayakanlah hidupmu sendiri! Setidaknya hari ini, saat kau memejamkan mata dan pelan - pelan tersenyum menyaksikan senyum mereka satu per satu bagai slide yang bergantian muncul di kepalamu. Lalu kenanglah, betapa luas karunia yang telah diberikan Hidup kepadamu. Kau tak pernah meminta, tetapi Hidup memberimu segalanya. Dan ketika kau meminta, Hidup memberimu lebih! I can see you if you're not with me I can say to my self if you're okay I can feel you if you're not with me I can reach you my self, you show me the way  Barangkali mereka memang tak benar - benar berada di sisimu. Tetapi kenangkanlah, selalu, merekalah yang setia mendukungmu. Saat kau terjatuh, merekalah orang - orang pertama yang mengulurkan tangannya untuk membantumu bangkit. Saat kau tersesat dan butuh tempat untuk pulang, merekalah yang selalu bersedia bagai rumah dengan pintu yang terbuka. Barangkali kau bisa menyia-nyiakan hidupmu, tetapi tegakah kau mengecewakan mereka yang berharap banyak padamu, mengkhianati cinta mereka padamu? Berhentilah bersedih, berhentilah kecewa, berhentilah merasa bodoh dan tak beruntung, nyanyikanlah hidupmu dengan musik yang kau ciptakan sendiri. Hidupmu adalah serangkaian partitur yang tak bisa dinyanyikan siapapun selain dirimu sendiri. Pejamkanlah matamu. Sebutkan sepuluh nama. Rasakanlah sesuatu bekerja di hatimu bagai reaksi kimia yang mendesir gamang mengaliri jalan-jalan darah ke seluruh tubuhmu. Bila sampai pada bagian saraf bibirmu, melengkungkan senyum tulus yang menghangatkan hatimu, akan ku katakan padamu: Selamat berkenalan dengan rasa syukur ! |
